8 rules for dating my daughter

there is (or was) a show called "8 rules for dating my daughter". never saw it but i like the concept. i remember hearing a very simple rule on what to do when my daughter started dating.

"kill the first one. word will get around." seems like a simple enough concept.

anyway, a long time ago, after he first got into her email, i had flashcards i would keep with me to sort of keep me on the right track. or maybe more accurately, to help keep me from straying into bad territory. think i'm gonna do that again.

"9 rules for talking to the love you can't have"

1 - she's not mine. wasn't, isn't, won't be. Deal with it.
2 - she has a life that doesn't include me. MOST of her life doesn't include me. Deal with it.
3 - she's not leaving, not meeting, not giving up her name. Deal with it.
4 - do nothing to make her feel bad because she has a life, a love and a partner.
5 - break rule #4 and you're a dick.
6 - if i make her feel uncomfortable about talking about her life, she'll stop talking. unless i want that, be okay with talking about her life. it's HER LIFE. Deal with it.
7 - enjoy her friendship. i'm lucky to have it. be happy with what i do have with her.
8 - DO NOT mention my own feelings or hurt or desires re: losing or not having her. not her problem.
9 - accept the way things are or she'll leave me completely. deal with it.


not as good as the original set (i wish i could find those).. but they'll do for now. i'll have to revise them as it makes sense...