loss

Relationships end all the time, don't they? Most of the time, the relationships kinda fade away; you lose touch with a friend, the social circle slowly dissipates, the movie buddies move away.

for those "couple" relationships, people often fight the ending of them, even though they know in their head that it's a bad relationship. we seem to fight the ending of something that we've worked to build/acheive, even if we know it's no good, as though to preserve something bad is better than letting it die. How many women stay in abusive relationships? how many people stay in loveless relationships, even when they know the love is gone and there's no point in continuing?

how many people find themselves fighting the end of a relationship that they know is good and should be saved, nurtured, rescued? how many people find themselves in a relationship that should be saved, but their partner doesn't see it? or is too distracted by other things to see the value, the rightness, the importance of preserving the relationship?


what do you do when the most important relationship of your life is sacrificed by one person in an attempt to preserve another that they know is not the right one for them?


and then i wonder: how many of us in this situation are deluding ourselves and telling ourselves that the other person would be better off with us, that they really want to be with us? maybe our others know what's best for them.

and it's not us.