kharma? cosmic irony?

it's either kharma settling the score or a huge cosmic irony....

there's no other explanation really.

Consider the situation - a man, unhappy with his life and marriage, finds another to love and leaves his wife. it's not a terrible life, he's just bored and sure that there must be something more to life, there must be passion and desire out there yet to experience. being mid-life, the ticking of his "time-remaining" biological clock grows louder with every passing day.

and then he finds her. she too is unhappy with her relationship and her life. like him, it's not terrible; it's certainly more than comfortable enough. but there must be more, isn't there? she too seeks passion and ... more.

talking together they see glimmers of what each had been seeking, should they be together. they both want that. want to find it, experience it, live it.

and here's where the kharmic payback or cosmic irony steps in... he made his break, leaving for a better life. she however is much more principled. one of her most strongly held principles is that she'd never leave one relationship for another, ever. she won't ever fall for the "grass is greener" trap.

he made the break, gave up everything, changed his life. (ok, it wasn't so much of a -decision- as that's how it turned out, but still..).

but she can't and won't break her principle. so even though she claims unhappiness, she roots herself there more firmly than ever, determined not to do the horrible thing.

besides, why would she want a man who she already knows has left one relationship for another?