Sensitive guy or not?

I'm at the point of a personal crises. I have to change my life - move from this city, change the relationship I have here, get a job for the time being until I can better finance the endeavor I hope will be my work for the rest of my working life.

It's been kind of a hard decision to come to. As B pointed out, I thought I'd already given up working for someone and now I have to go back to it. Also, I've been in this place since before my divorce. This city, this apartment, this relationship. It's time to move on.

B has been a great help with my coming to understand this, as she is a help with seemingly everything else in my life. Yesterday afternoon she asked if I'd be available later to talk, about nothing in specific, just to talk.

This struck me as funny at first, because there's nothing I'd rather do than spend hours with her talking, as she well knows. But then I realized there was something specific in her request. We'd had a good afternoon of easy chitchat. The pressures from the issue at her office had been dealt with and she was noticibly more relaxed.

What come to mind was that she wanted to be intimate, close, even to have sex.

When the time came, the conversation started. We talked, the subject moved and changed and then we began talking about me leaving here. Then about how this relationship here (with e) would end. And then about how the times of intimacy (especially sex) between us have been less and less for a long time.

Here's where I'm beginning to doubt myself. I know her very well, I know that. I still believe I know her better than anyone else ever has. Yet, I've read her wrong, apparently. Very wrong perhaps. I've been ?cautious?hesitant? to initiate sex talk for the last 6-8 months because of the turmoil in her life at home with bf. I knew that she was suffering her own toubles and problems there. And that had affected -us-, come between us some, made her pull back from our intimacy and made her less interested in our sex. So i've been holding back on initating sex or sex talk. I thought I was being sensitive to her needs/wants, being aware of her feelings and acting as I should, acting as someone who's deeply concerned for her would do. Putting my own desires for sex and sexual intimacy with her aside and being more focused on her wants.

But that's not how she sees it. She held out our lesser amount of sex and sexual talk and intimacy as ?proof? that we're not as close as we were before! How could she think that?!?! All the time I think i'm being "sensitive guy" and not pushing her, doing whatever i could to make sure i don't push sex on her, don't make her uncomfortable with unwanted sexuality, and she's seeing it as though we're not being that close anymore???

So where else in our relationship have i so royally screwed up?